It is indeed easier said than done for people to get over their problems, and hey, I can relate as well, as someone who has obstacles now and then in his life; I know it is difficult to just get over it with the power of words, so if you have that sort of problem, please do seek professional help.
However, while the positive thoughts may not be a solution to every single problem, they are indeed complementary. Professional help will be needed if it gets serious, but at the same time, do reflect and give yourself some thoughts of yourself along the way. It will certainly help you feel better. A couple of things:
The fact that you have indeed made it this far in this life, shows how strong you truly are. You have survived a lot of things, and you can tell yourself that you can do it! Just living itself is already heroic, so keep on going, my friend!
You are worth it. Donít let anyone tell you otherwise that you are useless. Donít let someone or some task judge your self-worth, for it can only grow from here!
You are beautiful just the way you are Ė both inside and outside. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder. Donít let some standards judge you Ė your character, your personality, your appearance, they are fine just the way they are for the most people.
If your attitude and character have been rather negative recently (in just any way really, I don't specify and judge), for the most parts, couple it with seeking professional help and remember that it is never too late to change. To be a person, is to realise yourself and change for the better. Anyone can change for the better, including yourself. Thereís always room for improvement, and itís never too late. Everyone has actions that they are not proud of, but that's the magic of it: If you are not proud of some things you have done, then you have grew as a person. That's a win.
You are very, very worth it. All of you have something going on in your life. A goal, whether be it long-term, or short-term. Tell yourself that you can do it, and you will pick yourself up and do it despite the odds. You donít fail just because you did something wrong; take it as a learning point, and grow as a person from that point on. You can do it.
You are not alone. No one survives alone. There are people out there willing to help you in times of needs, a sunlight to pierce through the dark clouds and storms.
And with that said, I want you to have the best day that you will ever have. If the life is treating you well, congratulations on that! Enjoy it as best as possible. If the life has been a rather bumpy one, know that there is a smooth road ahead of you, and you are almost there.
Keep going, my friend. You are worth every second of your life.
Never too late to be happy or optimistic. It's not a competition. Smile a little! ^^
What I can say is, go with the things you enjoy and keep on writing! ^^
I might talk about the cliches as well, and maybe offer some criticism here and there, but if you put in enough effort (like most of you really did), you will find that your nation/universe is a conglomeration of all the things that inspired you, and that's part of the charm of these nations. Like, you can tell what inspired that person, or what kind of things that they like.
Of course, it's important to hit the points of realism, but at the same time, do try yourself not to get worked too much over realism. Some people like it, more power to you. Some people don't like it, more power to you. I personally go for a balance of both, being fully aware that my nation is not exactly the most realistic, but for most people, it's an escape from reality. I would say that other than glaring logistical/mathematics/physics errors, or anything of that sort, there's no singular right or wrong way; just a trope/cliche because we have seen it so many times before. PT, MT, PMT, FT, FFT, FanT... we are all in this together, and hey, we have tropes for one another.
Again, with enough effort, each and everyone of you are unique in your own way, so there's that. You might have cliches attached to you (I have many too, trust me), but you can spin that into constructive criticism, and tropes are unavoidable anyway, so... embrace it.
This is not an angry or annoyed rant. I just want to tell you guys that even if we point out each other's flaws, most of you are all doing a great work so far with your factbooks, and seeing all the positive cliches - retcons, rewrites... that just means that you are improving as a whole.
Some things might not work. Some things might need a change. That's not failure, when you are learning.
Keep on going. ♥